Consulting and coaching for international parents in Berlin

The Confused Mother offers international mothers and parents in Berlin support with Elterngeld, Elternzeit and Kindergeld as well as understanding pregnancy and postpartum support. 

For mothers who are looking for a new job after their parental leave or want to start a business, I offer job and business coaching.

Let me be your companion in your parenting journey in Berlin!

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How we can work together

Elterngeld, Kindergeld Tutorials

How to apply for Elterngeld, Elternzeit, Kindergeld: so much paperwork when you have a baby in Germany! What does it all mean? The online video tutorials will help you understand services and support available to you during pregnancy and for postpartum as well as how to apply for financial benefits in Germany.

Job Coaching for Mothers

Are you looking for a career coach to plan your return to work after maternity leave? Or applying for a new job? If you are overwhelmed by this, we can work together to address your job and career, plan your new work-life balance and build your confidence to go back to work. 100% free via the Agentur für Arbeit. 

Career Workshops for Mothers

Work life balance. Finding your dream job in Germany. Getting back to work after your maternity leave or looking to change your line of work. This series of workshops prepares you for it all with exercises, toolkits and experiences of others in your situation. They are online and in small intimate groups, safe spaces for you.

About The Confused Mother

When you’re expecting a baby, you probably start doing some research and hear about things like Elterngeld, Elternzeit, Kindergeld and are totally confused about whether you can apply for them, how and what you need. And you’re already a confused mother!

We all start out as confused mothers when we have a baby because we don’t know if we are doing the right thing for them. It gets even more overwhelming in a foreign country, when we have to deal with the administrative paperwork and going back to our jobs. We try to go through it all on our own, feel alone and lonely in our experience. But it doesn’t have to be that way. 

Using online video tutorials to explain pregnancy and postpartum as well as administrative support, consulting to fill out your applications and job coaching, The Confused Mother offers clarity and guidance on navigating life as an international mother in Germany and communicating your needs so that you find balance. Insecurity, self doubt and mental load will become things of the past. 

Customer reviews:

If you are an expat living in Berlin and a confused mother-to-be like me, Gitanjali’s pregnancy and postpartum tutorial will give you a quick glance on what it is like giving birth in the country, how to prepare for it, and all the supports and benefits you should apply for to help you start this exciting journey at ease. Thank you Gitanjali!


I learned how to keep my application documents up to date and adapt them to job advertisements. I learned to recognize and describe my skills and to find suitable employers. Gitanjali gave me a lot of food for thought, which helped me in my job search, but also in life in general, for which I am very grateful. I found the coaching extremely useful.


Both her tutorials are great! It feels like sitting with a friend and hearing about everything I need to know about pregnancy and postpartum. She talks into the camera and explains everything calmly and slowly. I found it very useful and learned so many things about Elterngeld and postpartum care that I’d never heard before. 



I am Gitanjali, founder of The Confused Mother. I have one daughter and live with my family in Berlin, Germany.

In 2014, I moved from India to Germany after working for several years in the non-profit sector in India. In the last eight years, I have worked with many international people to plan the next steps in their careers.

Since I had a child in 2021 and realised how isolating and overwhelming it can get, I decided to support other parents in their journey, get all the financial support they need and have open conversations about motherhood.

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The Confused Mother Podcast

Do you want even more content on motherhood? Here is The Confused Mother podcast, where I talk to mothers and experts about everything related to motherhood and work. Listen for some wonderful conversations and great tips for all the Confused Mothers out there. Click below to tune in on Spotify or Apple podcasts:

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