Raising Bilingual Children: Beyond Words

We are raising our daughter with three languages. It is an interesting and complicated journey, but also a lot of fun! If you’re an international parent in Germany, you probably have the same questions about raising your children with multiple languages. We often hear about the concept of “one parent one language” but that doesn’t apply in our case! We went against this advice and it seems to be working well. There is no one-size-fits-all formula to make it a success.

But I wanted to know if what we’re doing is somewhat right, so I spoke to my friend Afi Huguette, who is the expert on raising bilingual children. She shared her tips on navigating this wonderful journey.

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Connecting with language

Culture and language

Afi says, “One thing that particularly fascinates me about this topic is how different the families I had the chance to work with are. Bilingualism never looks the same. But one thing I say to every family is, that the importance of raising bilingual children goes beyond the mere acquisition of language. It is a journey that involves transmitting cultural heritage, fostering a sense of identity, and navigating the delicate balance between different worlds.” 

Imagine your child seamlessly navigating the merry-go-round of culture, effortlessly grasping the quirks embedded in their heritage language(s). Transmitting your heritage language becomes a cultural connection, your language(s) the carrier of cultural nuances, traditions, and values. Through bilingualism, your child gains access to the rich tapestry of their heritage, fostering a profound connection to their familial and cultural identity. 

Raising bilingual children is tough!

The harsh reality and the challenges we face while transmitting our heritage language(s) can spread a sense of failure, and dissatisfaction and burst our linguistic bubble. One of the challenges is to not be overwhelmed by the myths and the amount of input while reading about the topic. 

Maintaining a balance between different languages can seem like a feat of strength. It’s common for your child to gravitate towards one language, potentially leading to language dominance. You may also encounter the phenomenon of language mixing, where your child seamlessly blends elements from different languages within a single sentence. This is something totally normally and not a negative sign. It doesn’t mean your child is overwhelmed. The social and peer pressure is typically not helpful during those moments. You may face challenges in social settings, especially if their heritage language(s) differs from the dominant language in your community.

Peer pressure to conform to the majority language can pose difficulties, potentially leading to a child’s reluctance to speak the heritage language outside the home.

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What's the solution?

There is no magic remedy: consistency and commitment are the ingredients to success. It requires your commitment to consistently expose your children to the language(s) you want to transmit. The demands of modern life can make this challenging, and maintaining a bilingual environment may require careful planning and dedication.

Now that we’ve braved the thrill ride of bilingual parenting, here is a little survival guide—a treasure map to successfully navigate the joyous peaks and challenging valleys:

  1. Transform your home into a place where your language(s) exists, and lead by example. Children are keen observers, and they learn by imitation. Engage in conversations, read books, and showcase the beauty of your language(s) in your daily interactions. 
  2. Language mixing is not a bug; it’s a feature! Embrace the delightful concoction of phrases and expressions that make your child’s speech a unique blend, especially at a younger age. 
  3. Bilingualism is a family affair, and every member can participate in their own way. Make language acquisition a joyous celebration by involving the entire family. Share stories or cook traditional meals together.
  4. Build a support network! Bilingual parenting is not a solo expedition. Build a support network with fellow bilingual families who understand the joys and challenges. Share your victories and laugh off the linguistic mishaps and organize play dates. 
  5. Adapt to your child’s journey. Your child’s language journey is as unique as their fingerprints. Pay attention to their preferences, interests, and pace. Adapt your language transmission strategies to align with their evolving needs. Whether it’s introducing age-appropriate books or incorporating language into their favorite hobbies, tailoring your approach ensures a positive linguistic experience.
  6. While consistency is vital, so is flexibility. Bilingual parenting is an evolving journey, and there will be detours along the way. Embrace the unpredictability, adjust when needed, and remember that language development is a dynamic process. A little flexibility ensures a smoother ride through the twists and turns.

It's beautiful!

Raising bilingual children is a colorful, chaotic, and beautiful journey. As you navigate the twists and turns of heritage language transmission, keep in mind that the joy is in the journey. Stay resilient, celebrate the victories, and embrace the challenges as opportunities for growth.

Afi Huguette is the founder of Miniglotte, a startup dedicated to supporting bilingual families on this exciting journey.

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